“There is something wrong with your character if opportunity controls your loyalty.”
Loyalty is fleeting now days. Personally, I think society has directly influenced that mentality. We see athletes jumping from team to team and celebrities switching lovers each day at Cannes.
So honestly, what is sacred now days? Instead of questioning one’s motives, we continue to reward deceit and completely forget about those individuals that have stood for something. People have a short memory and I’m all for supporting individuals that do something to help their well-being, but I don’t appreciate glorifying deceit or bad mouthing something that has done a lot of good because you think you deserve more.
Since when did being shady and selfish, become normal?
A recent poll was taken and it asked individuals what the leading cause of their divorce was. I bet you are thinking that infidelity was the number one cause, right? Nope, it didn’t even make the top ten. In order, the most reoccurring causes for divorce were:
- Getting in for the wrong reasons (marrying for money)
- Lack of individual identity (Not being allowed to be yourself)
- Becoming lost in the roles (Differences in beliefs)
- Not having a shared vision of success (‘Everything changed when we got married’)
- The intimacy disappears.
- Unmet expectations.
- Being out of touch with each other.
- Different priorities and interests.
- Inability to resolve conflicts.
Wait…What? You’re telling me that with all the opportunities to cheat through social media, technology and apps, that cheating did not make it on the list? According to Buss & Shackelford, it is expected that roughly 30-60% of all married individuals will engage in infidelity at some point during their marriage. So, possibly 30-60% of married individuals that get cheated on, stay with their spouse after they cheat, making betrayal accepted, but lacking flare in the bedroom is grounds to leave your partner. Out of those top 10 reasons, did you notice that all those causes of divorce above are self-benefitting.
If someone can get away with cheating and still reap the same benefits of loyalty, why would someone be loyal to that person? Morally, it is wrong, but if someone cheats in the first place, have they not already neglected the basis of a clear moral compass? Morals are already out the window at that point.
The same goes for business. My dad always says, “Some things are not for sale.” Which leads me to ask, what about you as a working individual will you not compromise to get ahead? I was reading the other day and on success.com, an author, Jim Rohn, stated that, “Success as a leader is built on the foundation of character.” He gave 6 essential traits of a good character, as follows:
Wow. Look at the differences in having character and having a successful marriage. If we applied those above traits into marriages today, what would the divorce rate be? I guarantee it would drop tremendously. Loyalty has lost its place in the workplace and relationships. Is it because it is easier to just walk away and society accepts the ‘At least you tried’ mentality? Entitlement has caused the diminish of loyalty in society.
As if lack of loyalty in relationships and the workplace is not enough, let’s add loyalty to our country into the mix. Our national pride is at an all-time low because people cannot put their own feelings aside and think about the bigger picture. Cheering for Donald Trump’s failure is cheering for your own failure. In our participation trophy society, I know people cannot handle failing. Flashback to after the election when students couldn’t go to school, celebrities were crying on their social media videos and protestors were defecating on Donald Trump signs. We’re their consequences? No, they got attention on major news networks. Out of the thousands of inspiring and positive stories, the news gave attention to people that were not being loyal to their institution, their fans or their country.
The part that made me laugh the most is that they were so caught up in the opposition, that they failed to allow those who were LOYAL to Trump any attention, because they we’re not as loud. Did you know, all these things have happened since November 8th:
- Protestors in black masks shut down college campuses.
- Protestors destroy buildings such as Starbucks and banks.
- Kathy Griffin poses with a bloody replica of the President’s decapitated head.
- A popular publication published an article calling for the execution of Donald Trump.
- A man shot at several Republican congressmen.
- 35 Trump supporters have been attacked or killed by protestors since July 2016.
- Johnny Depp calls for the killing of President Trump.
- A rapper has threatened to gang rape First Lady Melania Trump.
- A comedian made fun of the way First Lady Melania Trump spoke.
- An SNL writer said that 10-year-old Barron Trump looked like a future school shooter.
You want to know the best part of all of this? They destroyed a Starbucks and the owner of Starbucks was a Hillary Clinton supporter and donated to her own campaign. They got so caught up in the ‘fight,’ that they neglected loyalty to their own.
All because Donald Trump won the Presidency. One can say that his tweets are bizarre and he overuses the words ‘Great’ and ‘So good,’ but it is hard to deny that he is in fact, loyal to the United States of America. Otherwise, why would a billionaire leave his company to lead a country that has caused his family pain and anguish over the past few months? For everyone that is going to bring up “locker room talk,” “Not releasing his tax returns,” “Russia,” or “The wall,” his loyal supporters can argue: Monica Lewinsky, theft, Benghazi and she too, once supported, “the wall.” Trust me, I’ve heard both sides. But, have you listened to both opinions, or just formed your own?
That isn’t the point though, people have become so accustom to deceit and unfaithfulness, that they fail to recognize it when it is right in front of them whether it be in a person or political figure.
Loyalty is not a part-time job. It’s supporting those who have stood by you. It is standing by your country and leaving politics out of national pride. It is staying loyal to your partner, even when infidelity presents itself. It is being a decent human being.
If we take our ego out of the picture, are we really entitled to loyalty from those we don’t not return the favor to? Let’s stop persecuting each other for being loyal to our beliefs and instead start celebrating that we have differences. You cannot change one’s mind, but you can accept it.
We have to start holding each other accountable and realize that there are consequences to our actions. The world is a big place and we are not the only person that matters. Be different, don’t accept laziness when it comes to loyalty, from others or yourself.
Although it is hard, we cannot only be loyal when it benefits us. There are millions of people in the world and it takes one person to stand by their beliefs and cause a movement. I challenge you to show loyalty to those things that matter, your beliefs and principles should be at the top of the list because if you sell yourself out, you have nothing left.
In a world where everyone is pushing inclusiveness, it’s time we stop showing acceptance to things that hurt people. Our country is not the movie Mean Girls; you can be loyal to yourself, your family, your brand, your sponsors, employers and country, and still get a seat at the table.
Don’t sell out.
If we show each other respect, work hard, stand behind each other and support our own, that is when America will be great again.
I’m cheering for you,
DISCLAIMER: If you get upset by this, you didn’t read it all. These are the things that I believe, you don’t have to agree. Stay loyal, no one is trying to change you.